OOPS!

Some mistakes can be easily corrected. Others take some time and effort to rectify. Still others have only minimal affect on life in the grand scheme of things.

But, what about a mistake that has wreaked unbelievable havoc and has cost the Church dearly?

I believe, and this is probably only my belief, that the Church as a whole has made a critical error. Just a few short years ago, ministries such as Teen Mania revealed startling statistics about the young generation. Below are a few of these statistics...

THIS IS A GENERATION IN CRISIS
* 1 out of 11 attempt SUICIDE each year.

* 1 out of 10 fifteen year olds and younger have gone through family divorce in their life-time.

* 58% have been involved in objectionable content on the web.

* 40% have experimented with SELF-INJURY ("are "cutters").

* Use of prescription DRUGS (Ritalin, anti-depressants etc.) by children/teens has increased substantially in the past few years.

THIS IS A GENERATION WITHOUT MORALITY
•By the time the average child graduates from high school, he/she will have watched 19,000 hours of TV including about 200,000 sexual acts and 1 million ACTS OF VIOLENCE.

•1 in 10 high school females have reported being RAPED at some point in their life.

•Fear of violence in schools is now the leading "worry" of public school teens.

•48% of high school seniors are SEXUALLY ACTIVE (had sexual intercourse in past 3 months).


THIS IS A GENERATION WITHOUT TRUTH
•91% say there is NO ABSOLUTE TRUTH.

•75% of teens in America believe the central message of the Bible is, "God helps those who help themselves".

•53% believe Jesus committed sin (40% of born again teens believe Jesus committed sin).

(Source - Teen Mania Ministries )

As I look over these statistics, I immediately see a common denominator. Sure, it is easy to see, you see it too. That denominator is the lack of a godly example in the form of parents in a Christ-centered marriage.
 
As if these statistics are not disturbing enough, I see a even more disturbing trend. Although the Church has ramped up their youth ministries and are investing a few hours a week into the lives of teens, many of these same teens are still under the majority influence of only moderately healthy to unhealthy, and even, broken marriages as depicted by their parents.
 
I am extremely thankful for these ministry efforts and the youth pastors and youth leaders who fight courageously and passionately for the lives and souls of the teens that they minister to. However, the influence of the home will not be overcome in the vast majority of these young lives, until the Church intentionally engages in marriage ministry, single parent ministry and even divorce recovery with a slant toward reconciliation.
 

Instead of taking a holistic approach to the epidemic, we put a band aid on a symptom while allowing the disease to continue. Instead of intentionally treating the dysfunction both within the Church and outside of the Church, we allow the majority, the primary influence, to continue spreading the disease while we build ministries that do not address the root cause. Sure, the disease is sin and the Gospel, presented in it's power, and the subsequent acceptance on the part of the hearer, remedies that portion of the epidemic.

But the influence of the parent(s) is critical.
 
"My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water." James 3:12 NIV

The words spoken into this young generation and the actions that this young generation sees in their homes will have a profound impact on their lives.

The Church, in her failure to be intentional in ministry to marriages and families, in whatever form exists within and without of her walls, has fueled the continuance of the epidemic. Hence, the pinpoint accuracy of these statistics today. What will it take to remedy this?

Intentionality.

The Church needs pastors who are courageous enough to implement gifted leadership into these areas and set a clear explanation of why these ministries exist. Who raise up an accountability and expectation process that says, we have these ministries for you and we expect you to avail yourself to them. In short, pastors and leaders who say, "Husband and Wives, Fathers and Mothers and Families, as members/partners/attendees of this church, we expect you to strive to have Christ-centered marriages and families. And, If you are no longer married, we expect you to avail yourself to the ministries that will help you prepare to have a Christ-centered marriage in the future."

Besides leading people to salvation, the Church must be about the business of dicipling new and existing believers. As humans, we do not inheritantly know how to be a godly husband, father, wife or mother. The Church desparately needs ministries to address these issues.

As I stated in a previous paragraph, these are only my thoughts. But I firmly believe that, while this error cannot be reversed, the course can be redirected for the benefit of our current and future families. Seamless ministry involving, pastors, counselors, marriage ministry leaders, youth pastors/leaders and children's ministry pastors/leaders, together working in the same direction can bring great results through Christ.

Climbing down off of my soapbox now.

Blessings!

Watch Out For The Trap

"Are you hearing things?" It is a common question in movies, especially those movies depicting a patient and therapist relationship.

Usually, the patient gets defensive and emphatically states that they are not "hearing things".

Have you ever been tempted to ask your spouse the same question? You know, during those times when your spouse reacts in such an unexpected way to something you said. You question, at least in your mind, what on earth they heard?

Truth is, we all hear things. We not only hear what is verbally spoken by our spouse and others, but, all-the-while it is being spoken, we are extrapolating the meaning and the purpose behind the words.

Often, that meaning and purpose derived from our perception and estimation becomes a distortion of the intent of our spouse.

Case in point. I woke up this morning and walked out into our kitchen to find my wife, Robin, hurrying about as she was preparing to leave for work. The first words out of her mouth were, "You need to..."

OK. I instantly had a couple of choices. I could view her words as being disrespectful and unloving and stomp off while muttering things like,

"I can't believe she didn't say good morning." Or. "Who is she to give me orders?"

Or, as I did this morning, I realized that I had slept in, I did not help her with the kids, the laundry, the bills or anything else. Oh, wait, I did make the bed, but anyway...

Here is the point. Our marriage has a real enemy. His name is Satan. He loves to drive a wedge between a husband and wife by wanting us to take offense at the words and actions of our spouse.

Robin's intent was not to say, "You're a lousy husband and your not worth greeting in the morning." No. Her intent was," I'm in a hurry, this thing that I'm asking you to do is really important to me and I NEED YOU to take care of it. She was asking me to step up and be her hero today.

Same words, entirely different meaning.

I had been hearing a buzz about a book and it's author recently. To be honest, as much as I like to write, I am not much of a reader - a fault that I'm working on. However, I heard the author speak twice last week at a conference that we were speaking at, and I was both convicted and challenged. I had Robin purchase the book for me to read as soon as we returned home.

The book is called The Bait of Satan by John Bevere. In the book, Bevere, exposes the trap that the enemy sets for all of us, regarding our relationships. That trap is, of course, offense. In marriage, if the enemy can get us to be offended, he can separate us, emotionally, relationally and spiritually from our spouse and, ultimately, from God.

Recognizing the temptation to take offense with our spouse, is key to spiritually protecting your spouse and your marriage.

My prayer today, was,

"God, I know that Robin was communicating from her heart this morning. I know that she loves me and needs me to help her with what she asked. Help me not to allow offense to come between her and I and between us and You."

Have you allowed satan's trap of offense into your marriage? Or, are you spiritually protecting your marriage?

Do not merely listen to the words that your spouse speaks to you, but listen to what they are truly speaking - from the heart.

Do Not Press This Button

This weekend, the subject of buttons came ups several times; so, I had to post something about marriage as it relates to buttons.

Yesterday, Robin and I had the privilege of having lunch with another couple. Our time was spent with some good food and great conversation. The conversation was quite humorous as we shared our experiences in marriage, family and ministry.

Near the end of our time together, in response to something that was said, I made one of my usual statements about how no person can make us angry. We simply choose to become angry in certain situations.

The conversation continued with the wives mentioning about how we, as husbands and wives, can walk on or push each other's buttons - buttons which can fuel a negative and sometimes explosive reaction.

We all have buttons - those vulnerable areas, which we try to protect so much that we hide them away and seldom address the need to work through them.

While we are all fairly predictable, our buttons can change regularly - even daily. We know how frustrated a wife can become when something she says or does causes little or no reaction in her husband one day and causes a massive explosion the next.

Or. The confusion a husband feels when he can say the exact same words, in the exact same tone and in a very similar situation and have two very different outcomes in regard to how his wife will react.

The typical end result of these scenarios? NOTHING. We stop doing anything for FEAR of our spouses reaction. The marriage then becomes isolated and driven by fear and avoidance.

Here is how it, practically, plays out:

•We don't talk about those issues -Communication Isolation.
•We don't put ourselves in situations, as a couple or with other couples, where those issues may come up - Relational Isolation.
•We bury the issue and never address it within ourselves - Heart Isolation.
•We cannot fully abandon ourselves to enjoy the physical intimacy of our love - Physical Isolation.
•Our ability to be intimate with each other and with God is hindered - Spiritual Isolation.

When we fail to control our reactions or fail to respond in a well thought-out manner we strip away the stabilizing factors of safety and security in our marriage.

As a Christian husband or wife, we need to provide a place of safety and security for our spouse in which we can share together. A place where we can speak the truth in love, and share the most intimate of our thoughts and what we are feeling.

Safety and security speaks of protection. Do we truly love our spouse?

"It (Love) always protects" 1 Corinthians 13:7a.

Loving our spouse is not shown by avoiding our spouses buttons. It is shown by working together through those issues that each of us have. When we do that, we protect each other and we disconnect the power that those buttons release.


For Marriages and Families,

Dave & Robin

UNBELIZEABLE!

What can we say?

We arrived in Belize last Saturday and were awed by the beauty of the lush foliage, the fragrance of the variety of flowers and the view of the Mayan Mountains in the distance.



After our journey to the Village of San Antonio (population 4000), we were greeted by village leaders who insisted on helping us with our luggage. We were immediately family, bonded with Christ's love.



We were able to minister in the church service on Sunday morning - Robin and I singing on the praise team. After the service we prayed for the church members under a powerful anointing of God's Holy Spirit.

Sunday afternoon the entire team went to the home of an 18 year old girl who had recently been diagnosed with Leukemia. While we went to pray for her, she ministered to us with her unwavering faith and encouragement.

On Monday we begin the construction and refurbishing projects at the School.




The conditions at this facility, compared to the schools in the States, are very lacking. It broke our hearts to see the equipment and classrooms that are utilized at this school serving nearly 300 students.

After a days work in the heat and humidity, we prepared for the first night of the marriage conference. We learned that there is a planned start time and a Belizean start time - typically 45 minutes to an hour after the scheduled start time.

The conference, the first of it's kind in the area, was well attended and served as an introduction to this kind of teaching to the area pastors and village leaders. It was our first time preaching and teaching with the help of an interpreter.

After the first night, we were hearing reports of the pastors and leaders excitement. There were pastors saying,

"We have never heard this taught. This teaching is good and strong."
"This is so needed in our Country."

Each night of the conference concluded with me talking with many men and Robin ministering, hugging and crying with many women.

The culture in Belize is not favorable for women. Often women feel as if they are in bondage. The freedom that Christ can bring to marriages is so needed in this Country.

We did not fully realize what God had purposed to do through us this week. Not until Thursday. I was invited to meet with all the area pastors for a morning meeting resembling more of a meeting of the tribal chiefs. Some of our colleagues in marriage ministry had donated marriage ministry material and I distributed a pack of books to each pastor. After describing the content and explaining how to use each book in ministry, the pastors began asking questions.

They were most curious about the fact that Robin and I minister together - both preaching and teaching. In Belize, women typically do not minister in the churches, save but for singing. The pastors were interested in how they can begin incorporating women into ministry opportunities.

We could see the rust on the wheels of equality and freedom begin to fall off, as the pastors pondered my words, words given by the Holy Spirit in a crucial point in time.

Later that evening, while walking back to the school from a benefit concert for Samantha, the girl diagnosed with Leukemia, we were stopped repeatedly by couples wanting to thank us for coming. Many said,

"We prayed as a couple for the first time this week." "We have taught other couples the prayer model already." " We need more teaching and other couples in other villages need to hear this."

Robin and I walked the remaining distance in tears. God has started something amazing in the hearts of the Belizean pastor's, couples and families.

We've been invited back. We are praying. With the need so great and a welcoming door so wide open...

What can we say?



THANK YOU to all who prayed and sacrificed their finances to make this trip possible. Lives, marriages and families have been changed through your effort. We are eternally grateful.


For Marriages and Families,

Dave & Robin

Bring the Charges

"Bring the charges? I thought that we, as Christian couples, were supposed to overlook our spouse's faults?"

Sure, we are to be striving to do that, but the reality for most couples necessitates the need for some ground rules when we tread the all-to-familiar waters of failing to turn the other cheek.

Have you ever came home only to walk in the door and the first words you hear are in the tone of an executioner? Forget the arraignment, the hearing, the trial and sentencing, why not just put a verbal bullet through our spouse's head and let them lay where they fell?

Sadly, this is all too common in marriages today. We fail to, gently and respectfully, bring the charges to our spouses attention, before we, within a nano-second, execute judgement.

For women, before a word is spoken, they immediately sense a lack of security and protection. There will be no hug, no kiss, no welcoming of the wife back into the arms of her husband. Then the wife feels rejected and abandoned. Yeah, that will motivate her for sure!

For men, words will be spoken, with their wife's eyes first, then with their tone. A tone that is akin to words such as "Bad Dog! Bad!" He immediately feels disrespected and silently vows that he "will never allow her to treat him like that again." At that point, she is no longer being heard, he's, internally, too furious.

Simply put, both husband and wife are trying to express a need - be it help with the dishes or some encouragement. However, harsh tones and emotional abandonment will NEVER allow those needs to be met.

So, if you can't overlook the offenses of your spouse, at least be reasonable enough to bring the charges in a gentle, loving and respectful way. How?

Use sentences that begin with "I need..." "I know that you didn't mean to..., but I..." Use quiet tones without sarcasm.

Practice what you are going to say in front of a mirror. Look at your facial expressions and listen to the tone of your voice. These things may be communicating something to your spouse that you never intended.

Since most of us cannot completely live ideally, this side of heaven, we can, at least, learn to live with mutual respect and love.

Monday Marriage Minder - 4-4-2011 - Fruit Loops - Part 9 - "Gentleness"

"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!" Galatians 5:22-23 NLT "I can't believe that you said that!" "I can't believe that you said that like that!" Have you ever thought or said either of those sentences? Chances are that you have. Most, if not all, of us have reacted to something that was said to us or how it was said to us in a similar manner. As we are nearing the end of this series, I have realized that if the Fruit of the Spirit is not evident in our most intimate relationship, how then will our lives be Spirit led, Spirit filled and Spirit formed and evident to all that we come in contact with? The way we speak to our spouse is just as important as the words we use when we speak to our spouse. Gentleness is a Fruit of the Spirit that goes a long way in working through disagreements and fostering security in the marriage relationship. "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." Eph 4:2-3 NIV If this truly applies to the Church then it has to apply to marriages for we, as couples, are part of the church, are we not? Harshness or rude remarks and actions only intensify problems and these things serve to tear down a marriage. On a gentleness scale of 1-10, how would you honestly rate your thoughts, attitudes, words and actions toward your spouse? Be gentle! For Marriages, Dave & Robin

Passive - Destructive Marriages

Today, I was contemplating the danger of being passive in our marriage. Just as we need to be active in the daily pursuit of our spouse (yes, you still need to pursue him/her after you are married - plus it is so much more fun when you catch him/her) we need to actively engage in spiritual warfare as a couple. It takes action. The enemy of our marriages, through life and his schemes, tries his dead-level best to bring us down.



We can't afford to just waltz through life, thinking that everything will be fine with no action on our part. It's time to pull our heads out of the sand, spit it out of our mouths and declare that we will play an active part offensively - in what God wants to do in our marriages and defensively - resisting what our enemy is always trying to bring against us.

"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints."

Ephesians 6:10-18 NIV

This passage follows one of the most powerful passages of the Bible - dealing with relationships. The word "Finally" means - In light of all this, or, perhaps, because this is so important and the enemy will target you because of this. - These show our need for action.


Read that passage again with your sweetheart today - then be doers of the Word you read! Don't be passive!

"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!"
Galatians 5:22-23 NLT

Robin and I returned yesterday evening from spending the weekend with one of the most loving, giving and hospitable families that we have ever met.

We were in town to minister during a marriage conference and to bring the Word on Sunday. I believe that we were probably more blessed by the Lord through this family and the people of the church, than they were through us.

This family welcomed us into their home, included us in their weekend plans and made us feel like they genuinely wanted us there.

When you stay in someones home, for even a short amount of time, you can't help but get to know them. We met three of their five children, a nephew, his wife and their little boy. Robin and I were blown away at how polite, friendly and open each family member was.

It did not take me long to figure out what it was about this family that made them so close. It was the fruit of goodness. The husband and wife, together, guarded their home, only letting that which is good to enter. From entertainment choices to activities, these were only acceptable if they were healthy and honored God.

This family also extends goodness to others, laboring tirelessly for the good of individuals, other families and their community.

This couple's children, all grown, are visibly reaping the benefits of the goodness with which they were raised. Subsequently, they are now displaying this fruit in their own lives.

As parents, what are we allowing into our homes and into our lives and the lives of our children? Do we stand guard, assessing those things and allowing only the healthy activities and the goodness of the Holy Spirit to pass?

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy —

think about such things."
Phil 4:8-9 NIV

What would our marriages, families and churches look like if we vowed to only receive -look at, listen to and allow in our hearts and minds - that which is pleasing to God? And, if we vowed to demonstrate only goodness to everyone around us? What would that do for the "Loop" that would encircle back to us as a result of our remaining true to such vows?

Goodness is one "Fruit- Loop" that we need to receive and display more in our lives.

For Marriages,

Dave & Robin

Monday Marriage Minder - 3-7-2011 - "Fruit Loops" - Part 6 - "Kindness"

"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!"
Galatians 5:22-23 NLT

Have you ever gone to the cupboard for a box of cereal, only to find a near empty inner bag containing a small portion of fractured pieces that is often more dust than cereal? Frustrating and disappointing, is it not?

Sadly, as inconsequential as a wee bit of cereal is, we often experience, to a much greater degree, the feelings of disappointment, loss and disconnection when the amount of kindness present within the confines of our marital box is in short supply.

When such is the case, it feels as though someone has jumped up and down on our box - crushing the life-giving substance to the point that it is beyond use or worth.

This lack of kindness is ruining marriages at an alarming rate today. When this Fruit of the Spirit is not being manifested in our marriage, there is a bone and relationship-chilling coldness that creeps into our hearts and lives.

I remember watching a music video in which the main character, a man, was sitting at a bar, peeling the label off of a bottle while singing these words...

"Well, it's too hot to fish,
too hot for golf
and too cold at home."

We have all been there. An icy stare, a cold and thoughtless remark. Well, remarks are seldom thoughtless, I mean, we do have to think it before we say it. Failing to show kindness is often just as intentional as showing kindness. It is, most often, pre-meditated. We plan to show kindness or a lack of kindness to our spouse in an attempt to bless, love and cherish, or, conversely, to manipulate, seek revenge and hurt.

Kindness is an intentional thing. It is not something that just happens. Throughout scripture, God showed his kindness to his people. He chose to do it.

What is amazing to me is the fact that showing kindness attracts. It attracts people, it positively affects relationships and it builds bridges of growth and peace.

On the other hand, a lack of kindness, will tear down and destroy. Even the strongest of persons will eventually wear and break in an atmosphere where kindness is in want.

Think of it this way. What attracted you to Christ? Was it because that he is the all-powerful Son of God? Or was it his kindness - the kindness that demonstrated his love for us that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8) That is true kindness.

He showed kindness to us even while we were not deserving. He continues to do this and we still are not deserving. Do not miss the significance of Christ's example here. Are we ever tempted to only demonstrate kindness when we feel our spouse deserves our kindness? In light of Christ's example, who are we to do that?

Real life questions. When you and your spouse get home today, what will the both of you come home to? Will your spiritual, relational and physical home be filled with kindness and warmth? Or will the icy and willful condition of your hearts liken the environment to the chilly conditions outside of our house today?

This is one "Fruit Loop" that can yield amazing results when we apply it. When we choose to show kindness, with time, it becomes reciprocal, and even if it does not, Christ's kindness will continue to be extended to you.

You choose,

For Marriages,

Dave & Robin

Fruit Loops - Part 5 - Patience

"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!"
Galatians 5:22-23 NLT


The first words that broke the silence of slumber at our house, this morning was, "I don't hear the sump pump running." Robin had cause for concern. During a hard rain and, especially, a hard rain coupled with a large snow-melt, if the sump pump in the corner of our basement stops working, our basement can quickly become a murky swimming pool.

I bolted down the stairs, still groggy from the 7 hour drive home from a weekend conference on the east coast. Sure enough, the massive amount of water that was coursing through our drains had overloaded our pump.

I quickly got dressed, jumped into the van and went to our local home improvement store to buy a new pump. On arriving home I found Robin and our two oldest boys bailing water into buckets, coolers and anything else that they could find that would hold water. Despite their efforts, water was coming in through the base of the walls - claiming the carpeting in 2 of the boy's rooms.

I was rushing to assemble the new pump into our drain system while, in shear frustration, Robin kept me informed of the increasing water damage.

Needless to say we were not being as patient with each other as we could have been. Robin would say, "It's (the water) heading for Alex's room!" Or, something similar to that effect. To which I would repeatedly and sharply answer, "We're all working as fast as we can!"

We share in our conferences that patience is developed through enduring trials and tests. A flooding basement would certainly be considered a trial; however, I don't know that Robin and I scored very well in our mastery of it.

"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."
Eph 4:2 NIV

We also share that we never fully arrive at mastering how we think, speak and act toward our spouse and that it is an ongoing and intentional process.

Yeah, well, Robin and I need to get back to work on our basement - and on our patience...


For Marriages,

Dave & Robin

Fruit Loops - Part 4 - "Peace"

"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

There is no law against these things!"
Galatians 5:22-23 NLT

This morning, I walked from our bedroom to our dining room to find Robin intently focused on her morning devotions. I waited until she looked up, her eyes catching mine and then proceeded to express my affection for her through our intimate "Good Morning" filled with kisses.

In several instances during this passed week, Robin has expressed her happiness to me and, I, to her. God has blessed us with a great marriage; however, it wasn't always so.

I used to be the king of selfishness and Robin had a temper. Add to the mix, my own temper and the combination quickly became deadly. My selfish actions would provoke her and she would, instinctively, lash out. To which I would react with more selfishness.

Peace, to us, was often little more than a form of dé·tente. Relaxing in our strained relationship, each of us trying hard to not upset or provoke the other.

True peace was something that we both longed for but had never achieved, until we unconditionally surrendered to Christ and, subsequently, to his Holy Spirit.

The gift of the Holy Spirit and the practice of the same has produced the fruit of the Holy Spirit in our lives and in our marriage. There is a calmness and a serenity in each other's company that was lacking for so many years before.

Robin experienced the presence and power of the Holy Spirit years ago, before I did and a change began to take place in our marriage. Later, when I received the empowerment of the Holy Spirit, our marriage dynamic radically improved even more.

"But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you.

I do not give to you as the world gives.

Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."
John 14:26-27 NIV

Imagine that. We can live at perfect peace in our marriages - taught by the Holy Spirit as we submit ourselves to the Lordship of Christ. It is a gift from our Lord that is cultivated in marriage by two individuals living a Spirit-formed, Spirit-led and covenant life.

Do we cultivate the fruit of peace in our own life? Do we allow the Holy Spirit to change us - sanding down our rough edges and flaws and growing us into instruments of his peace?

Do you have peace in your marriage? If not, ask God to change you and then allow him to do it. The change he works in your life will effect your spouse as well while you focus on the Lord.


"You will keep in perfect peace
all who trust in you,
all whose thoughts are fixed on you!"
Isa 26:3 NLT

Be a Peace-Liver and a Peace-Giver!

Peace-Out!


For Marriages,

Dave & Robin